The Importance of Both
As I read about the flak the players got for missing a game to be with their wives, I was appalled, and I was reminded of the idiotic remarks I have read that have been made by feminists about women not "needing" men and children in the womb being parasites, a whole bunch of general crap, that made me realize once again that the Feminist movement has nothing to do with the Women's Liberation Movement. That's another topic and a separate blog. Today I was reminded why a two parent household with stability and a true understanding of the Gospel, of relationship is crucial. Growing up, my parents having divorced when I was young, being raised by a single mom and knowing others who were raised by single parents, this is a subject close to home for me.
I observed two incidents that made me reflect, think. One was a father with his three children, two boys, a girl and their grandmother. As they approached the grandmother's building, the boy must have seen the man with the dog crossing the street and started to run to pet the dog. The grandmother called out to stop him, but he ignored that call. The father with one call, the boy stepped back, came back on the sidewalk. The father then proceeded to firmly reprimand. The grandmother, seeing the girl was upset and about to cry went over to soothe gently and immediately she as calmed. The other incident I observed was a father with his son on his shoulders and he was pointing to the letters and numbers on the subway entrance and the son was repeating them, but then he was asking which number came before two and after three, as well as which letter came after A and before C. He was then encouraging him in a very strong, firm voice, authoritative voice and I could imagine them playing football in the park, this boy's confidence being built up. There are those who will say that there are friends, cousins, aunts and uncles etc.. who can fill the gap. Bull, there is not substitute for mom and dad, none and anyone who says there is, is a liar, a con artist or plain delusional. A girl requires a mom with the true feminine to care, nurture, that softness. Not to say the woman can't also show her daughter that strong side to pursue her dreams while still being a caring nurturing parent and be there for their child. The key is for both parents that nothing be so much more important that the child be sacrificed for that ambition, using the lie that one is doing it for the children because all the material stuff you spoil them with will come back to bit in the behind if you are not their to provide solid moral strength and discipline. A boy needs a strong father figure to show him how to take care of the family, how to be a man of integrity, ethics, morals, take full responsibility for one's actions, to play football with him on weekends, want to know who his friends are, insist on meeting them, knowing who their parents are etc... The girl does also. Both kids need the parents to work as a team to create the rules of the house, the disciplinary guidelines of the household, so there is no wishy washy the kids can manipulate one against the other crap. As I watched these scenes today, I realized as I do more and more as I get older, wiser and more learned in my faith, theology, how crucial all this is to society, to the healthy development of the individual.
God made male and female, masculine and feminine and the female only to bear children, as well as the notion of marriage, one man and one woman from the beginning of time because he knew nothing else could ever be truly right, righteous, holy or healthy for humanity.
Shalom and Amen.
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